friendship, pairs, conversation, best friend, personality styles
Pairs converse to reflect their understanding of each other’s personality style. The class discusses the importance of understanding a friend’s personality.
The participants will understand how the four personality styles regard friendship.
Step 1: Divide the participants into pairs, preferably of different colors.
Step 2: Ask each pair to discuss with each other how their own personality style feels about friends and friendships.
Step 3: After a few minutes of discussion, invite each pair to report to the class their findings. Invite a “scribe” to record the answers so everyone can see them. Possible answers include:
- Need to have friends who can get together often.
- Frequently talk with friends on the phone.
- Like to share experiences and feelings with friends.
- Require a lot out of a relationship.
- Prefer “social functions” over “wild parties.”
- Enjoy planned, predictable get-togethers.
- Are quickly worn down by friends who are nontraditional, risk takers, or nonconformists.
- Like friends who contribute to their overall goals.
- Have only one or two friends
- Will get together to share interests or activities.
- Don’t chit-chat or shoot-the-breeze with friends.
- Like friends who are logical and independent.
- Prefer friends who control their thoughts, actions and emotions.
- Like friends who are adventurous, spontaneous, and like action.
- Don’t want friends who get all hung up over little things or say “We can’t do this because we’ll get into trouble.”
- Choose friends who bring something concrete to the relationship. For example, money, toys, cars, sports equipment, etc.
- Have lots of people who want to be their friends.